A huge challenge working moms face is how to manage their time wisely between work, raising your child(ren), and still having time to yourself. Not to mention, if you have split custody working around all of the extra scheduling that comes along with that.
This may sound difficult, but it’s actually easier once you sit down and plan it out. I would know because I fit all of the criteria listed above. I work an 8-5, currently bartending one night a week for the extra income (and because I love creating new drinks), and I raise a toddler. Oh yeah, I have a boyfriend and a family that I enjoy hanging out with as well.
The term “stress” is an understatement in this scenario. However, I have managed to make things work and I am going to share my top three tips with you.
1. Get Organized
Where to begin with this topic… Back in December, before I started my current 8-5 job, I was bartending full time at night five days a week and 3-4 days a week I have my my toddler (we switch up 3 and 4 days every week, so if I have him 3 days this week I will have him 4 days next week) who is an early riser.
I was not really that organized, mind you I have always been a fairly organized person. Once you have a child though you can lose your ways and forget how AWESOME a planner/calendar can be. Not to mention, working nights and getting home fairly late and having to be up early is extremely difficult – at least for me!
So when I started my new career I rediscovered how awesome planning things out really is. For work I plan out what I will be doing a whole day in advance so I can stay on track with my tasks and get my work done efficiently. I also write out a to-do list on an actual piece of paper with an ink pen, because yes this is still a thing, and crossing items off of a to-do list makes me feel incredibly accomplished.
I’ve gone a step further and hung up a white board calendar.I write in each month and any appointments my son and I may have, upcoming birthdays, etc.
(I’m honestly not a huge fan of calendars you hang on the wall and have to flip from month to month because I manage to keep it on January for an entire year.)
In all honesty, being organized makes me much happier because I do not feel like I am living in a world of mad chaos 24/7.
2. Make Plans Ahead of Time
Now I know this can be difficult because plans do change last minute sometimes and there is no way around that, but if you can make most plans ahead of time it helps so much when you are a working mom!
There are still certain things I procrastinate, such as buying birthday gifts and cards, and even planning out holidays and what not. What can I say, we all have our flaws, but planning this out, especially if you are a parent with 50/50 custody, helps so much in the long run.
Like I’ve said, not only do I have to plan holidays around my family with my toddler, but we also tend to spend time with my boyfriend’s family as well.
The more you can plan larger events in advance, the better it will be in the long run, I promise!
3. Spend You Days Off Wisely
Something I try really hard to do on weekends when I have my son for two full days is limit the amount of errands we have to run so I can soak up every minute I have with him. While I thoroughly love getting out of the house, I also enjoy just hanging out with my little sidekick and playing with toys and teaching him about life on those full days we have together.
Usually we make one big outing on the weekends to the store and I save smaller trips and errands for the weekdays after work when he’s with his dad. I enjoy every minute I have with him, and I don’t want to take away from that by dragging him all over stores on the weekend when we could be doing something much more fun like coloring or exploring the great outdoors.
All in all, it is totally possible to be a working mom and have time for your child.
There will always be small bumps in the road but finding a way to balance things really helps out. My son is two and it has taken me almost two years and a major career change to find the balance that works for us, and now that I have found it I will not give up hope that I can truly make things happen while being a full time working mom.
To all of you other working moms out there, go you! You are doing an amazing job and don’t ever forget that you are working to provide for your child(ren) and your family.
Even on the days you feel like you’re struggling to make ends meet, just remember you have a full force support system out there of other working moms who know the pains and struggles you are dealing with. With that being said – don’t hesitate to reach out to me if you ever just need to vent or talk!
What are some other ways you have found to balance your time as a working mom? Any tips for new moms just going back to work?