Let’s face it. Being a mom has many amazing rewards, but there are also some challenges along the way. This can be especially true when you are a new mom and your child has officially reached the toddler stage.
I don’t know about you guys, but everyday is an adventure when you have a toddler. The mood swings, the temper tantrums, and the laughter that comes along with motherhood during the toddler years is a rollercoaster filled with all of the emotions you find in the movie Inside Out.
By the way, if you have yet to see that movie go buy and watch it right now! It will be well worth your money and time and your kiddo will love it for a family movie night!
Something I have found myself asking is how to handle meltdowns that happen as quickly as the flip of a switch. One minute your toddler can be happy as a clam and the next –BOOM– screaming at the top of their lungs because you took their sippy cup to refill it for them.
Meltdowns are no joking matter and I have come to find most of the meltdowns my son has are due to communication problems. He can only say a few words and sometimes I don’t understand him and vice versa. When my son has a meltdown there are a few things I do to help him through them.
Remain calm or the situation will only escalate.
Our toddlers rely on us to help them through any situation that occurs. This could be something as simple as a spaghetti noodle that fell on their shirt and upset them to the toy that fell on their toe and made them cry.
As a mommy we have to remember that these meltdowns are a huge deal to our toddler and if we get upset because they have been upset 95% of the day that will solve nothing and will actually make matters worse.
I don’t know about you guys, but I hate being told to calm down, it actually causes me to be more upset, so I can only imagine my little feels the same way when I tell him to calm down.
This stage is crucial in their development and we have to help them along the way and with as fast as meltdowns happen, they’re over in the blink of an eye and everything is back to normal like it never even happened.
Patience really is a virtue when it comes to meltdowns so just remember to breathe and count to 10 and you will get your little through this meltdown all while keeping yourself cool, calm, and collected.
Remember that whatever the meltdown is over is a big deal to your toddler even if it is not to you.
Sometimes it can be easy to forget that something that may be minor to you is a huge deal to your little one. For instance, my son has recently become a picky eater and sometimes if I put something on his plate that he loved 24 hours ago he gets upset over it because in a 24 hour span he has decided not to love that particular food anymore.
Or when it’s time to go to bed and he wants to keep playing so I start to put his toys away… talk about a major meltdown at that point.
When your little cannot communicate what they want to with you they can get frustrated and this can bring on one of these meltdowns. My son is always so happy-go-lucky and a big goofball so when something bothers him I know it is a huge deal to him.
At that point I know he is having this meltdown because he cannot communicate what is wrong with me.
Try to cheer your little up when they are nearing the end of their meltdown.
Something I have come to find with my son is when his meltdown is almost over and he’s starting to calm down I will try to make him laugh to lighten the mood. I’ll give him a big bear hug and a smooch on the cheek and usually poke his belly because he can’t resist laughing when his belly is poked.
Usually I am pretty decent at realizing when his meltdown is coming to an end, but sometimes when I think it’s about to be over he starts up full blast again so I just give him a few more minutes.
Like I’ve mentioned earlier, it is easy to forget the communication barrier that is there with your toddler so they may not understand how to calm down and they just need a minute to be upset over whatever is bothering them.
I have come to find though that the cheering up method works quite well. Every child is different so you have to find what works best to help your toddler get over this little meltdown and it will soon be forgotten that it ever even happened.
What are some things you do to help your toddler overcome their meltdown?